Broken Hearts can be healed… Don’t ask how.

Every single tick of a clock, around the world, a lot of hearts is being broken. And for thousands of reasons, this existing reality remains, and that is because of this simple understanding; clocks never cease ticking. Make sense? Well then, it really does, because the world never stops turning, and for that, humans exist.

When we say broken heart, people tend to think it’s a lovers heart right? Well it’s not always like that, because children’s hearts can be broken too. Imagine how a child cries over a toy that he loves so much smashed by his older brother in front of his face. Seeing that valuable treasure ruined can impose heartache. This is not just applicable for children but in all ages as well except for infants of course. These are pains, a pain that is inflicted by others and later on turns out into self infliction. There are two kinds of pain right? Physical and emotional. Over and over again we hear this definition; physical pain can be healed through medications while emotional is through acceptance. True enough. And some says; emotional takes longer than physical to be healed. Again it’s right. Now let’s focus on a broken lover’s heart. It’s an emotional pain as we all know and there are a lot of troubles that goes with it, for there is pain inflicted by others but later on a self infliction, why? Because there is no acceptance, and because of that they tend to do things they think could help them. Some go to their friends and cry asking for a shoulder to lean on, some go to malls and spend a lot, some tend to eat a lot, and some choose to stay at home crying asking why is it happening. And all these people have one similar question, HOW?

“How am I supposed to let him go?”  Don’t ask how, you already know how, the question is WHEN?

“How am I supposed to forget her?” Don’t ask how, you already know how, the question is WHEN?

“How am I supposed to move on?” Don’t ask how, you already know how, the question is WHEN?

“Without him I’ll never be happy, how am I supposed to be happy?” Don’t ask how, you already know how, the question is WHEN?

Don’t ask how because you already know how. When you are in pain, you tend to do things that could help you ease that pain, and in fact while doing so, you are already trying to let go, you are already trying to forget, you are already trying to move on, you are already trying to be happy. Do you still need to ask how? You are already doing it. The question is when. We never ask that right? It is because we do not know when. And this is the right answer for that. It is when decision making happens. I just love this line from the movie Fireproof “Love is not just a feeling, it’s also a decision.” Although it says there that love is also a decision to hold on, that decision could also be letting go, to forget, to move on, and to be happy. And if you can do that, then you will be fine. Broken hearts can always be healed, don’t ask how because the question is when. And it is when you decide to be cured.